The numbers keep rising. These are only of the cases that went public. How about the enormous numbers of those that have not? The statistics on domestic violence and sexual assault are staggering. However, the amount of domestic violence and assaults that remain behind closed doors never to be discovered are significantly more so. It’s really like an iceberg.
Statistics also show that children who witness domestic violence often go on to engage in domestic violence relationships in their adulthood. Statistics show that relationships where domestic violence takes place between intimate partners are more likely to involve violence against children. Statistics and evidence show that people who are raised by parents who engage in violence tend to become more aggressive and to relive violence in their adult lives. Statistics show that head trauma can lead to further aggressive and violent behaviors. Football is a game where aggression and violence are necessary for success, and football is incredibly lucrative.
It is draft season and in its honor, many NFL investigations appear to be vindicating quite a few NFL players.
The NFL has instituted a new personal conduct policy containing more defined penalties, but many would surmise the situation as obligatory. The fact that the Ray Rice incident was caught on video precipitated criticism that could not be ignored and put pressure on the NFL to stop supporting denial of violence and aggression in the private lives of its players, despite the cost attached to having to deal with the issue.
The toughest penalty I see at this point is Greg Hardy’s 10-game suspension, reportedly worth $5 million to him. Here is what the investigation revealed about his situation, which apparently involved quite a bit of evidence:
The NFL’s investigation concluded that Hardy violated the Personal Conduct Policy by using physical force against Nicole Holder in at least four instances. First, he used physical force against her which caused her to land in a bathtub. Second, he used physical force against her which caused her to land on a futon that was covered with at least four semi-automatic rifles. Third, he used physical force against her by placing his hands around Ms. Holder’s neck and applying enough pressure to leave visible marks. And fourth, he used physical force to shove Ms. Holder against a wall in his apartment’s entry hallway.
The net effect of these acts was that Ms. Holder was severely traumatized and sustained a range of injuries, including bruises and scratches on her neck, shoulders, upper chest, back, arms and feet,” Commissioner Goodell wrote. “The use of physical force under the circumstances present here, against a woman substantially smaller than you and in the presence of powerful, military-style assault weapons, constitutes a significant act of violence in violation of the Personal Conduct Policy.”
Is a 10-game suspension an appropriate punishment? What are your thoughts? Is punishment even the answer and how much money is at stake?
I am learning more and more that when it comes to violence and money, money seems to win out. I have learned that abuse in the home and/or in the privacy of an intimate relationship, hidden, secret, shocking, continuing, intense, horrific, even leading to death in many cases, by the very loved ones of the victims, is in fact not at all infrequent in the upper socio-economic classes. It is not confined to the homes of the poor. However, when it occurs in homes where the abuser is a man with power and money, it is much less likely to ever be brought to light.
The victim is afraid, people don’t believe that a respected successful man could abuse or attack, and even more sadly, when it is brought to light, many of those with power and money don’t really care about the suffering of victims – often women and children. The bottom line, money and power, more often wins out.
Recently, the NFL vindicated the following players/draft picks: Frank Clark, Jameis Winston, Ray McDonald. It’s unknown yet what the NFL will do with respect to Joseph Randle.
The NFL is making donations, and draft attendees will be watching a 45-minute presentation on domestic violence. During the draft, it appears that dealing with the consequences of domestic violence and sexual assault charges have become a necessary inconvenience.